“Why Did She Still Marry Him After He Hit Her?”

“Why Did She Still Marry Him After He Hit Her?”

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Ray Rice of the Baltimore Ravens has been released by the team and suspended indefinitely from the NFL after video emerged today showing the running back punching out his then-fiance Janay in an Atlantic City hotel elevator. Prior to the release of the video, Rice had been suspended for two games by the league, a punishment many found woefully lenient, especially considering the league’s stance on drug use. The timing of the suspension is a matter of much debate today in sports media circles, with the league now claiming they did not have access to the video before now, a point met with well-deserved skepticism.

There are still a lot of questions to be answered about the case here — Rice will serve no jail time, incidentally — but one question is looming large for a certain class of person. Why did she still marry him then if he hit her?

This is the type of framing we see time and again whenever a woman is a victim.

Why did she still marry him if he hit her?

Why did she take the nude photos if she didn’t want them online?

Why did she go out with a professional fighter and star in porn films if she didn’t want to get her face smashed in?

Why did she wear that revealing top if she didn’t want men to cat-call her?

Why did she get drunk if she didn’t want to get taken advantage of?

Why was she out so late at night if she didn’t want to get into trouble?

Why did she wear that skirt if she didn’t want to get raped?

Why was she taking drugs if she didn’t expect something bad to happen?

Why was she even fucking born in the first place if she could never do anything that wasn’t going to be blamed on her?