It’s great that in 2013, the standards for “normal” behavior have shifted from, say, the era of Mad Men, when single mothers were taboo and dudes were expected and encouraged to walking around boffing everything they could get their paws on. But there’s still some kind of work to be done, as a survey of 751 students published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships reveals that college-aged women don’t see other promiscuous women as candidates for friendship. As it turns out, slut shaming isn’t just something done by dudes; the stigmatization extends across genders.
“For sexually permissive women, they are ostracized for being ‘easy,’ whereas men with a high number of sexual partners are viewed with a sense of accomplishment,” lead author Zhana Vrangalova said. “What surprised us in this study is how unaccepting promiscuous women were of other promiscuous women when it came to friendships — these are the very people one would think they could turn to for support.” Which means they’re limited to befriending straight or gay men who might accept their behavior without trying to sleep with them, or else be resigned to a lifetime of loneliness. “The effect is that these women are really isolated,” Vrangalova also said.
What a crummy conclusion, but maybe the study wasn’t surveying the right type of people? I and all of my friends are proud sluts, strutting around town and letting our respective junk out at any and all occasions; we love each other in our isolated slutdom, and would never tolerate an unkind word. Keep looking, forlorn sexy people of the world—your people are out there, waiting to be found.